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Missing Milestone Events Are Not Mommy Fails

July 13, 2018

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This may be the first time Serena Williams misses an important baby event but it won’t be the last.

New mom Serena Williams tweeted recently that she missed her baby’s first steps because of her Wimbledon training schedule. Serena Williams is learning what working moms have dealt with for years….. The realization that you cannot be there for every second of your child’s life.

As a working mom (lawyer, councilwoman, speaker, author and coach), it is inevitable that my work will pull me away at the most inconvenient moments. Just last week my son was sick. One of the most miserable feelings for a mom is seeing your child when they don’t feel well. You can see it in their eyes and it makes you want to just wave your Supermom wand and make them feel better. I so wanted to sit home all day and just hold him in my arms but I had court so I had to go to work.

Tameika in the office working with daughter looking on
Over the years, my work responsibilities have caused me to periodically miss school plays and soccer games but those misses have not caused me guilt because I know that having a working mom is good for my children. A study from Harvard Business School showed that children benefit from having a mother who works outside the home and I wholeheartedly agree. In addition to the benefits outlined by the study, I know that seeing a mom that works like I do teaches my children the value of hard work, shows them a woman in a leadership position and the benefits of entrepreneurship, just to name a few. Knowing the value that my children seeing first-hand (a strong, highly accomplished mom) cancels out any feelings of guilt I may have from missing some of their childhood milestones. Now don’t get me wrong, I would much rather be there when I can (and I do everything in my power not to miss events) but when the inevitable happens and I miss an event, I find comfort in knowing that the example I am modeling for them as a working mom will help them develop into strong adults.

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  1. Makema Massey on July 15, 2018 at 6:48 am

    I wish I had this perspective as a young mother earlier on. Now I have been blessed after my second daughter years later. I remember in building a career as a young cosmetologist and unless you work in building clientele you do not eat. I would work the salon 7 am until 9 pm and anytime in between. I got the first call that my daughter was walking from my mother and was distracted by the sadness that I didnt get to see it first that I didnt get to fully enjoy the moment. I went home and my mother gave me some wisdom being that she worked two jobs and raised my sister and I. She told me theres is no way that I did anything wrong by doing the best I could to provide for my daughter and I would get the opportunity to see her walk and when I did to make that time my moment then. This resonanted with me going forward to field trips…and any ither moment I just couldnt make it to and my children cope well are now 14 and 9 and have an understanding that I appreciate.

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