Body Shaper

My Love/Hate Relationship With Body Shapers

December 4, 2019

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Recently I was getting ready for a brand photo shoot when I ran to my stylist’s shop to grab some items to wear. When I walked in she immediately noticed that I was not wearing body shaper. She questioned me as to why I was not wearing a body shaper like she consistently urges me to.  I explained to her that of course I planned to wear a shaper for the photo shoot but on this day I was doing a lot of running around and since it was going to be such a long day, I chose not to wear my shaper.


I know I need a body shaper. I am 46 years old and have had 4 C-sections and apparently according to the doctors, during my last pregnancy my abdominal wall stretched so much that my tummy will never appear flat unless I get plastic surgery.  Therefore, a body shaper is the only thing that will keep me from looking like I am 3 months pregnant on a regular basis.

I do wear a body shaper when I am going to be out in the front of a lot of people or it is a special occasion but to be honest I do not wear a body shaper every day because I don’t want to be uncomfortable (and quite honestly, it really is a hassle to take off when you have to use the ladies’ room). My stylist proceeded to let me now that I have a brand and I always need to look my best and in her opinion, my best includes wearing a body shaper every day so that I don’t look like I am in my 1st trimester on a daily basis.


I received what she said in the loving and supportive spirit she meant it.  Having women in your circle who love you enough to be brutally honest to make sure you are always showing up as your best self is important (see my blog about who is in your circle).


I still have a love/hate relationship with body shapers.  I love the way they pull me in and tighten the places that babies, gravity and age have not been so kind to.  And I hate the uncomfortableness of them (even the higher end ones that are supposed to be comfortable but really are not).


My body shaper relationship has confirmed a valuable point that I make all the time.  With success come sacrifice.  Anything worth having requires you to do some things you don’t want to do.  Transformation sometimes is uncomfortable but the end result is worth it.


I still do not wear a body shaper every day.  But I do wear it more and often times when I really don’t want to.  When I put it on, I just suck it up (literally) and tell myself “You got to do what you got to do to get what you want to get”.


I would love to hear what things you do that you don’t like in the name of “looking your best”.  Share with me some of your stories below

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  1. Christie on September 10, 2019 at 1:44 pm

    Well, I hate anything tight (although when younger. I was told I looked as I had been poured into the garment) that was before my C section and abdominal surgery. At 74, comfort is more important and I wear as few clothes as possible. I do try to purchase things that may cover things I would rather the general public not see.

  2. Silisia “Superstar” Moses on September 10, 2019 at 2:08 pm

    Many people know me as a successful “Mary Kay” Sales Director. However, what they don’t know is, “I am a tomboy at heart & makeup was never a part of me prior to my Mary Kay career.” Like most, when introduced to the “Mary Kay” opportunity, I was hesitant ?. During the process of being sponsored into Mary Kay as a representative (part-time), it was said to me, “If you keep doing what you have always done, you will always get what you have always gotten”. Needless to say, “I began my relationship with Mary Kay”. Makeup is still my least desired part of this business (skincare being my #1 most desired); however, it’s what the public recognizes as my enhanced beauty (skincare is the true foundation of my beauty; not makeup). To appear as my best self (in the eyes of the public), while representing my cosmetic company, I suck it up, dress up, & wear makeup ? (almost daily). Silisia “Superstar” w/ Mary Kay, Inc

  3. Rhonda Midgette on September 11, 2019 at 2:14 pm

    When I do wear one.. I consider it the price I pay for NOT giving up fries and donuts. Also, I am on a quest to find one that does not just redistribute fat from one place to another.

  4. Niomi Kenner on September 12, 2019 at 8:11 pm

    Hi Tameika!
    Thank you for being so transparent. I would say wearing wigs! Ugh I am so over going to the beauty supply store and continuing to give money to false hair. When I purchase a wig and it looks great and everyone compliments it I’m just like but it’s not mine and really don’t care about the compliment so much. I’ve come home so many times with a wig purchase that I didn’t like how it looked on me and went right back the next day to purchase another. I really feel as if the wigs are a bonage.

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